Someone has aptly said, “What failure teaches, success does not”; but it is also equally true that failure has two sides. One side is to find out powerful ways to deal with it and convert your failure into success- motivation, inspiration, and determination, and the other one includes- giving up which leads to frustration and depression. No matter how hard failure hurts us, it is an important part of life, in fact, it is necessary.
No baby in this world learns walking without falling. Failure brings experience that gives us knowledge, resilience, and growth. So we must take failure in the right spirit.
Never be afraid to start again because this time things will start from experience not from zero.
Here are some tips which can help you deal with failure in an effective way:
1. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
“Believe in your infinite potential. Your only limitations are those you set upon yourself.”– Roy T. Bennett
When we fail, lots of people approach us by saying, “I told you that you shouldn’t have done this”. A simple way of dealing with them is – “Ignore them”. Just believe in yourself as it’s you who knows your strengths and weaknesses very well. No need to take their criticism seriously. Have faith in your inner potential and Just do the best you can do.
If you fail, don’t try to paint your emotions with a smile. Just accept how you feel no matter how hard it hurts. Acceptance is the key role player as it gives you the courage to try again and boost your confidence to give your best.
“You have to be able to accept failure to get better.”– Lebron James
Using failure as leverage, celebrate success but don’t treat your failure as sin. We often lose wonderful opportunities when we don’t accept failure because our brain creates continuous fear of losing again. Always remember: anyone who wants to do something ‘value-creating’ in life, will fail.
Acceptance converts any uncertainty into an adventure while non-acceptance converts it into a fear.– Dr. Jai Madan
3. ALLOW YOURSELF TO FAIL
“When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.”– Eloise Ristad
Don’t be afraid of failure, in fact, allow yourself to fail. When you tell yourself that failure is nothing to be afraid of, you open up a magic box of possibilities.
Amitabh Bachchan, a legendary Bollywood actor who enjoys incredible stardom today, was once rejected due to his baritone voice, striking face, and commanding height in earlier auditions and not offered a job in All India Radio Station. Now his impeccable dialogue delivery and magnificent voice have become an aspiration for millions.
4. NEVER GIVE UP
Understand that failure is part of life and it’s ok to fail but remember that it’s not ok to give up. Sometimes we don’t realize that taking one more step would open a door of success.
Generally, when we fail over and over again, we create a thought of giving up. But who knows, maybe there is only one attempt remaining which could lead us to success? Should we waste the long journey we have passed when we are already so close to our destination?
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”– Thomas A. Edison
Thomas Edison failed thousands of times in his experiments but finally made remarkable inventions of his time because he never gave up. He knew very well what it means not to give up. There are just ordinary people with extraordinary attitude; be one of them, never lose hope, just hold on tight and don’t give up.
5. LEARN FROM FAILURE
“Failure is a success if we learn from it.”– Malcolm Forbes
Be constructive and stay positive. Life is not about who you once were, it is about who you are right now. Be flexible to learn the lesson as valuable feedback and use it to improve rather than taking it as a setback.
Ask yourself these questions:
- What is the reason for my failure?
- What’s one thing I can learn to improve?
- How can I avoid the same mistake and likely do better next time?
- What’s one thing I can do differently the next time to get success?
Take sufficient time to analyze these questions and be honest with yourself as you answer them.
“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the ax.”– Abraham Lincoln
6. LOOK OUT FOR INSPIRATION
Check out your surroundings or surf online about the people who’ve gone where you want to go. Take inspiration from their journey to success; learn how they had overcome their barriers and failures; read how they handled their low points and setbacks and implement them according to your needs.
Taking motivation from their stories can be very helpful to shift your mood and mindset back towards optimism again.
“The Pessimist Sees Difficulty In Every Opportunity. The Optimist Sees Opportunity In Every Difficulty.”– Winston Churchill
7. NOURISH YOUR SELF-ESTEEM WHEN IT IS LOW
“It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.”– Sir Edmund Hillary
Self Esteem: the way you feel about yourself.
The last thing to keep in mind is to nourish your self-esteem and self-confidence to handle your setbacks. Don’t allow failures to drag you down rather try to recover more quickly from them. Eliminate self-criticism and don’t think that everything that goes wrong in your life is 100% your fault.
“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”– Thomas Edison
Identify your competencies and develop them with positive affirmations like- “I have the power to change myself”, “I will continue to earn and grow” and many more.
“To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections.”– Sandra Bierig
Believe me, failure is not an omen of more failures, rather it is a blessing in disguise, provided we take it in the right spirit! Many great people have proved that failure is a stepping stone to success!